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When applying this dual-force concept to life, Nathalie Sommer, a certified relationship and intimacy coach, believes it is important to know how to switch between both so we can lead a loving, productive and inspiring life. But first off, we need to better understand these energies.

Masculine energy can be described as our “do” energy. “You’re using your masculine energy when you’re striving, planning and focusing,” Sommer says. “It’s the energy that gets stuff done.”

Feminine energy, on the other hand, is our “feeling” energy. “It’s when you’re surrendering, flowing and feeling. You become an embodiment of pleasure, love and beauty. Your feminine energy can also be quite wild, powerful and chaotic,” Sommer explains.

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Having these energies depends on how we manage our lives.

“It doesn’t have anything to do with age. But a lot of women are not getting a good chunk of feminine energy because they are stuck or forced to stay in their masculine zone. As a result, it’s hard to switch on the feminine energy.”

Sommer explains that if women are stuck in their masculine zone all the time, they become tired and drained. It means they are giving way too much and not receiving enough in return.

As a result, they become irritable, hardened, disconnected, and end up shutting down, she says.

“In a relationship, when both partners start to channel the same energy and there is no flow between the masculine and feminine, it doesn’t create polarity. This leads to imbalances and loss of connection.”

The Chinese yin-yang principle has similar interpretations. Every person is a mixture of both energies. For example, if two people who have predominantly yang energy are together, the relationship could be stressful and suffer a lot of drama. It is because the two would be butting heads and not knowing how to act in a more amicable manner.

In this case, the two should manage and adjust their yang “go-getter” attitude so that it supports, rather than attacks, each other to achieve positive results.

It is rather interesting to see two people who are in a predominantly yin relationship. Although both parties tend to be full of ideas, they are rather passive and choose to wait for the other to make a move first. However, if they can channel their energy correctly and complement each other in their work, they can make a very successful team.

Sommer says women can boost their feminine energy by letting go.

“They have to understand what they need and desire, and allow themselves to let go, relax and switch from ‘doing’ to ‘being’. For some women, it means letting go of the desire to control the little things. This means letting the mask come down and allowing their full and authentic expression to be seen,” she says.

“They also need to take time to foster a deep connection with their partner without a goal. They need to strive for more movement, more creativity and less structure. It could be as simple as letting their partner take charge sometimes and refusing to make all the decisions.”

Sadly, there are many modern-day problems women desperately need to address to maintain or maximise their feminine energy level.

“As women nowadays, we’re used to being independent, leading, climbing up the career ladder, managing our family, and all other responsibilities. But when we’re more in our feminine energy zone we feel more pleasure and we practise self-care that makes us feel nurtured. That way we also come from a place of strength and connection which holds power and allows us to flow through things with ease,” Sommer says.

“Rather than pushing hard by being in the masculine zone and creating burnout, we should magnetise things to come to us and weave them together in a pleasurable way. Basically, the future is ‘feminine’, as we’re learning to connect more of our feminine energy again. I like to go with the motto: pleasure first.”

To achieve a healthy relationship dynamic, couples need to be mutually supportive. This means making an effort to share strength while at the same time being willing to cover for each other in areas of weakness. That way, it will leave no gap in the relationship in terms of energy level – and equilibrium is achieved.

Luisa Tam is a correspondent at the Post

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